• Play This on Repeat

    By Gloria Latham

    Trust, commitment, unconditional love, and support.

    These are all things we say we want in a relationship. But what shows up in your relationships might look quite different, and I’ll tell you why…

    I’m sure you know this Rolling Stones song, right? I’ve been playing it on repeat all summer because this refrain says it all…

    You can’t always get what you want
    You can’t always get what you want
    You can’t always get what you want
    But if you try sometimes you just might find
    You just might find
    You get what you need

    And I’m sure you’ve heard that sometimes not getting what you want is a blessing.

    How so?

    You think you want one thing…but it’s not the best thing for you.

    You keep attracting the wrong relationships…because there’s a lesson you still haven’t learned.

    You say you want your relationships to be a certain way…but your actions tell a different story.

    What does your heartbreak mean? What is it trying to tell you? What do you need?

    When your trust is broken enough times, or when you’ve had enough of not being supported, you may finally come to understand that you’re attracting what you need to learn in your relationships.

    You’re not getting exactly what you want…you’re getting what you need to learn from.

    But it doesn’t have to be this way forever. You can break free of the patterns of the past. You can heal your relationships.

    And it starts with giving yourself what you need.

    In what ways are you not trusting yourself, not supporting yourself, and not fulfilling your commitments to yourself? Let’s start there…

    In what ways have you betrayed yourself?


    In what ways are you unsupportive of yourself?


    In what ways are you unloving to yourself?


    Whatever you’re searching for in others, it’s time to start giving it to yourself.

    When you finally learn to honor who you are, support and commit to being your true self, only then will you find the love and support you need reflected back to you in others.

    Intimate relationships are the most challenging ones in which to learn your lessons. You’re likely tempted to believe that if you could just “fix” the other person, or get them to be what you need, you’d finally be able to feel secure, safe, loved, and supported. Not true.

    To deepen your relationships, you have to heal your relationship with yourself, and this is the work we’re about to do this fall in my Heal Your Heart Online course.

    You don’t have to guess what to do, or keep struggling through alone. This is the system that takes you from deepening your relationship with yourself, to deepening your relationship with others. This is about true self-care…

    And real self-care means far more than pampering or being kinder to yourself. It means being real and honest with yourself.

    Sat Nam,


    Gloria Latham

    Gloria Latham is one of the most influential forces of Yoga Teacher Training globally. She is a Lululemon Global Ambassador, and founder of Semperviva Yoga Studios. She is best known for her week long transformational programs that help students powerfully break through barriers, and her high vibing Yoga Raves. Gloria worked as a licensed pharmacist for almost ten years before discovering true health through the practice of yoga and meditation.

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