Month: July 2019

Trust, commitment, unconditional love, and support.

These are all things we say we want in a relationship. But what shows up in your relationships might look quite different, and I’ll tell you why…

I’m sure you know this Rolling Stones song, right? I’ve been playing it on repeat all summer because this refrain says it all…

You can’t always get what you want
You can’t always get what you want
You can’t always get what you want
But if you try sometimes you just might find
You just might find
You get what you need

And I’m sure you’ve heard that sometimes not getting what you want is a blessing.

How so?

You think you want one thing…but it’s not the best thing for you.

You keep attracting the wrong relationships…because there’s a lesson you still haven’t learned.

You say you want your relationships to be a certain way…but your actions tell a different story.

What does your heartbreak mean? What is it trying to tell you? What do you need?

When your trust is broken enough times, or when you’ve had enough of not being supported, you may finally come to understand that you’re attracting what you need to learn in your relationships.

You’re not getting exactly what you want…you’re getting what you need to learn from.

But it doesn’t have to be this way forever. You can break free of the patterns of the past. You can heal your relationships.

And it starts with giving yourself what you need.

In what ways are you not trusting yourself, not supporting yourself, and not fulfilling your commitments to yourself? Let’s start there…

In what ways have you betrayed yourself?

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In what ways are you unsupportive of yourself?

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In what ways are you unloving to yourself?

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Whatever you’re searching for in others, it’s time to start giving it to yourself.

When you finally learn to honor who you are, support and commit to being your true self, only then will you find the love and support you need reflected back to you in others.

Intimate relationships are the most challenging ones in which to learn your lessons. You’re likely tempted to believe that if you could just “fix” the other person, or get them to be what you need, you’d finally be able to feel secure, safe, loved, and supported. Not true.

To deepen your relationships, you have to heal your relationship with yourself, and this is the work we’re about to do this fall in my Heal Your Heart Online course.

You don’t have to guess what to do, or keep struggling through alone. This is the system that takes you from deepening your relationship with yourself, to deepening your relationship with others. This is about true self-care…

And real self-care means far more than pampering or being kinder to yourself. It means being real and honest with yourself.

Sat Nam,

Gloria

Do you have the hard conversations with your loved ones? You know, the ones where you express your truest desires, set healthy boundaries, and say the words that must be said….

Only those must-have conversations take place only in your head…The words never actually make it out of your mouth and into their ears.

Or maybe the words do make it out…

Instead of a face-to-face, heart-to-heart conversation, it’s a heated text exchange…you fire back and forth at each other, in a destined-to-fail attempt to resolve important issues.

But texting is just how it’s done these days, right? Maybe to remind someone to pick up a gallon of milk, definitely not for relationship-impacting issues.

Why? Because your texts can be cold and cryptic, and so can your partner’s. It’s one of the worst forms of communication for deep issues.

Why is it so hard to have these conversations…about love, relationships, boundaries, desires…in the right way?

Because expressing what’s in your heart is allowing yourself to be fully seen.

It takes a lot of courage to express what’s in your heart.

When you speak from courage, you can’t hide behind texting any longer. And you can’t carry on conversations in your head only to freeze when it comes to having them in real life.

Allowing yourself to be fully seen through healthy self-expression is how you build relationships based on your truth. And this is a key step in learning to Heal Your Heart.

Heartache is a result of not being true to yourself in your relationships. When you constantly hide who you are solely to please others, you build relationships on a stack of lies.

Your need to be liked and accepted is a powerful driving force for your behaviours. It takes courage to risk being seen for who you really are.

Are you willing to risk the relationship you have for the more fulfilling one you crave?

You don’t have to do this work alone. The Kundalini yoga and meditation techniques you experience in my online immersion, Heal Your Heart, breakthrough your fear of rejection and strengthen your sense of self, so you can learn to express yourself fully and build relationships based on the truth of who you are.

A key component of the course is third chakra activation because your third chakra is responsible for your courage and sense of self.

It takes courage to have open and honest conversations with the ones you love. It can leave you feeling raw and exposed. But incredible healing happens when you get up the courage to have those difficult conversations.

So, my questions for you are:

Where are you withholding your truth – for fear of what it might do to your relationship?

Is there some aspect of yourself you’re hiding for fear of rejection?

And are you willing to call on your courage to change?

Sat Nam,

Gloria