I was having dinner with a dear friend a few years ago, when I something he said made me stop and think . At 65 years of age, he called himself an “orphan.” Aren’t we all orphans at that age? It was interesting because the tone of the conversation hinted that he felt he was missing out on parental love. Although that could certainly have been true in his early years, isn’t there a point where we become “the parents,” or at least “the adults.”
At what point in our lives do we start taking full responsibility for ourselves and our emotions. It does seem easier to direct the blame at others.
No one can deny that we are shaped by our formative years, and certainly many have suffered by tough upbringings. But, each new moment presents us with the opportunity for change.
Yogi Bhajan, master of Kundalini Yoga, would tell his students to “drop their problems.” His mantra was “Don’t solve your problems, dissolve your problems.” He guided his students to get out and help people whenever they were feeling low themselves. Helping others, would make them feel better.
The opportunity of a fulfilling life lies in each and every moment.
If you’re struggling emotionally, pull in support systems and do the things that help you feel better. Practice yoga, spend time with family and friends, get out into nature, find satisfying work, and help someone else in need. If you want more love in your life, the secret is to give more love.